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Childless not by Choice


Hello there, my name is Civilla Morgan. Are you childless not by choice? Do you know someone who is?

After years of hoping, and waiting, even attempting on two occasions to adopt; I realized I would never have children. It was a difficult time for me, but I decided that I could not be the only woman on this planet trying to figure out how to deal with my situation.

You see, I was not willing to pretend I was OK when I really was not. I wanted children and I was not going to be having any.  I heard all types of comments down through the years from acquaintances and strangers alike. Some meant well, some wanted me to be sure I recognized they had something I would never have.

But through it all, as much as my heart hurt, I also knew there were women worldwide who were going through the same or similar circumstances and feelings. And on top of that, some women are being physically and mentally mistreated.

So I created Childless not by Choice aka 21st Century Hannah. A platform where I speak to and encourage women who are childless not by choice. Check out my episodes, and please tell your friends and family; especially those who are childless not by choice. For details on all things childless not by choice, visit me at www.childlessnotbychoice.net. 

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Apr 10, 2017

Hello everyone!

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Welcome to episode 60—Miscarriage

As I did my research for this episode, I started wondering which of these four issues that I discuss in my miniseries of the four most recognized infertility issues is the worst: PCOS, Endometriosis, Miscarriage, or Fibroids.

I mean what’s worst, not being able to get pregnant, or getting pregnant, knowing there is a human being inside you; and then not?

I have my opinion on that, but I will let you decide without my thoughts and opinions coloring the issues.

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I started my research with statistics because I continue to be intrigued by the high number of miscarriages that take place per number of pregnancies. I believe the reason is because I am thinking of the advances in medicine, i.e. we are in the 21st Century! Shouldn’t things be a lot better than they were in say the 1800’s, even 100 years ago?

But as I continued to research, I realized it was not necessarily about the advances in medicine, but more the imperfections of us, we humans. Our bodies are amazing, from head to toe. But one of the awesome things that our bodies will do and that would create negative emotions is to reject an organism it believes to be foreign. In the case of a miscarriage, that foreign organism may be an embryo with damaged chromosomes. See the full story at www.verywell.com where they say in part that ‘Laboratory studies on IVF patients have found that a very large percentage of eggs harbor chromosome abnormalities (the leading cause of miscarriage)…’      

 

My immediate thought was that miscarriage that happens very early in a pregnancy, and the miscarriage that happens later in a pregnancy may result in two different emotional events. Maybe? Tell me what you think. I mean if there is a miscarriage at a chromosomal level, is it different, dare I say easier to deal with than a miscarriage at three or four months?     

 

The statistics per my research on the Very Well website:

The biggest miscarriage risk factor is a mother's age.

According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists, the number of miscarriages in the first trimester for women increases dramatically as a woman ages. Here are the statistics showing this rise:

  • age 20 to 30 years: 9 to 17 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 35 years: 20 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 40 years: 40 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 45 years: 80 percent miscarriage rate

 

Bottom line, generally speaking, and you can go back to my episode where I interview Dr. Shari-ann James, 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. 

 

Links to previous episodes mentioned in this episode:

Dr. Emine Cay Masters

Dr. Shari-ann James

 

Research sites:

https://www.verywell.com/making-sense-of-miscarriage-statistics-2371721

 

https://search.cdc.gov/search?query=miscarriage&utf8=%E2%9C%93&affiliate=cdc-main

 

 

Podcast episodes mentioned in this episode:

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/mental-health-in-the-childless-not-by-choice-community-my-interview-with-psychologist-dr-shari-ann-james/

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/menopause-infertility-childlessness-my-interview-with-dr-emine-cay-masters/

 

 

News stories and articles of note:

https://infertilemidnightbaker.wordpress.com/2017/03/25/an-open-letter-to-my-fertile-friends/amp/

   

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